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Decoding Your Culture Part 3: What is Emotionally Mature Leadership?


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Last week, I talked about drama and the toll it can take on the culture of your center. We started to identify the different symptoms of drama to look out for, including complaining about the small things, gossip, and playing the victim.

Another sign that drama has infiltrated your school culture is inconsistent actions and behaviors among your team. In other words, when someone goes from one extreme behavior to another—extremely forgiving to hyper-critical or exceptionally kind to highly rude.

These inconsistencies are difficult to spot because they require you to pay attention over a long period of time.

What’s more, inconsistent actions and behaviors are also one of the most toxic patterns of drama, because they cause your team and staff to become hypervigilant—walking on eggshells in fear of unpredictable treatment and standards.

Without exaggeration, it can destroy your school’s culture from the inside out.

So, how do you combat this insidious form of drama? By becoming an emotionally mature leader.

In this week’s podcast episode, we’ll continue our Decoding Your Culture series by furthering our exploration of the different types of drama and talking about how to combat it through emotionally mature leadership. 

Join me for a conversation about:

  • Inconsistent actions and behaviors and what they can look like
  • Manipulation and the widespread damage it causes
  • Real-life examples of these types of drama in action
  • What drama-free, emotionally mature leadership looks like

After listening to this episode, I encourage you to start taking note of how drama may be showing up in your own center. Then, consider how you can adjust your own behavior as a school leader to reflect the type of culture you want to see.


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If you want to achieve the level of emotionally mature leadership described in this episode, you should join our Owner’s Only HQ and Director’s Inner Circle membership programs. These programs are designed to provide you with the tools, resources, community, and coaching you need to grow into the type of leader you’ve always wanted to be.

As a member, you’ll also have the opportunity to attend this year’s Summit of Excellence (February 28–March 2),  which centers on building legacy through values-based leadership. The topics we discuss during the event will help you deepen your understanding of how to lead your school to excellence. I hope to see you there!

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More about the show:

If you are an Early Childhood director or owner, prepare to transform your school and life with the Schools of Excellence podcast. Tune in each week to learn from Chanie Wilschanski, the founder and host of the Schools of Excellence Podcast and a mom of 4 little kids. Each episode will be packed with tools and strategies – equipping you to build schools with higher staff retention, teacher motivation, parent partnership, collaborative culture, and beautiful quality of life.

Every week, Chanie shares the truth about the journey to excellence, the strategies that are working TODAY, and the mindset about the critical decisions and choices that you make every day which impact yourself, your teachers, parents, family, and children who you serve every day.

In addition to weekly solo episodes, she’ll also be inviting industry leaders and the changing makers of the landscape of education to give listeners the inside knowledge of what it takes to sustain excellence.

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